If you’ve never dated a wealthy man before, you’ll be nervous about how you’ll fit into his lifestyle. How to stay on good terms with him without feeling overwhelmed, read this article until you remember it!
1. Reexamine Your Motives
Ask yourself if you fall in love with someone who happens to be rich, or if you’re dating a guy just because he’s rich. If the diamond earrings he gave you are more important than the sweet kisses he gave you, you might be in a relationship for the wrong reasons, but it won’t last. Ask yourself the following questions to help you better identify your inner motivation:
- If he didn’t have a house and a car, would he still be attractive to you? If you’re not sure if you loved him as much as you loved him when he lived in a tiny apartment and drove an older model than yours, then you probably loved him for his stuff, not him as a person
- You’re in your 20s and he’s nearing retirement age? While age may be just a number, “Sugar Daddy” isn’t just a word.
- When someone asks you what you love about them, is “he’s rich” the first thought that pops into your head? If you are obsessed with his possessions, chances are you won’t respect his other good qualities, or he doesn’t have any other good qualities at all.
- Do you only date rich men? If he’s the tenth rich man you’ve dated, then money is probably the only thing you care about, and you need to think about what you really care about in a relationship.
Sure, champagne and oysters are a great meal, but if you ask for them every night and don’t get anything in return, your man might suspect you’re falling in love with his bank account, not his wit or sense of humor. Find a balance between expensive activities and activities that everyone can offer
Occasionally at your expense. Even if your finances are tight, it’s important to show that you care, even if it’s just paying for a movie ticket or a drink at the bar after he treats you to dinner. You can also order specials at usually expensive restaurants, or check out a local bar that is hosting free music nights, so you can still afford good food and entertainment.
Treat him to a less expensive meal. You can invite him over and cook a delicious, affordable meal to go with a reasonably priced bottle of wine, or prepare a delicious picnic that shows you’re willing to put in the time and experience for your date.
Invite him to accompany you to a less expensive event. Invite him to join you in an outdoor activity, such as walking, hiking, or sitting on a bench in the sun. If it’s too cold to be outside, invite him to join you for a visit to a new museum or bookstore near your home. It shows that his company is more important than his gifts.
3. Don’t Be Overwhelmed by His Wealth
If he’s the right person, he doesn’t want to hear repeatedly about how rich he is or how much you enjoy dating a rich guy. This may cause him to lose confidence in himself and in your relationship.
When you introduce him to your new friends, remember to tell your friends to behave discreetly. If one of them says, “Ah, you’re by far the richest person I know,” it sounds like money is the only thing that matters to you.
If he wants to buy something expensive, just let him do it. If he wants to take you to the theater or on vacation, don’t hurt his good intentions by repeatedly saying, “It must be expensive.” It will ruin the romance and make you feel less friendly.
You don’t have to learn his every move, especially if you don’t have enough money. It’s better to share the same interests and understand his world better. The more things you have in common, the more you will love him. Pay attention to your role. Dress as appropriately as you can, even if it means buying designer clothes on sale to make you look rich. Substitute square zircon for diamonds, substitute a fake for a real luxury handbag, or wait until expensive clothes are on sale to find the right one. You can also splurge on the occasional real designer item — in terms of quality rather than quantity, that is, if you only have a few key luxury items, pair them with your regular items. Learn some rich people’s hobbies. Learn a sport that the rich enjoy, such as sailing, polo or tennis. You’ll learn new skills, make new friends, and have fun in the process!
5. Money talks; Learn to Refute This
If you are serious about your boyfriend, then you are likely to meet his family and rich friends. You want to make a good impression and let them know how much you like your new boyfriend – not his new yacht. If you’re nervous about meeting his friends, you can keep a low profile when you first meet them, learn about their group, and then join in a friendly conversation that shows you’re not intimidated by their wealth. If you’re meeting his family for the first time, it’s best not to talk about his wealth, or his lavish lifestyle when you’re together. Chances are he’s had a girlfriend in the past who used sex to get money, and his family will be on the lookout for any details that reflect your impure intentions. Be yourself. Always be yourself, even if you have to adjust to get closer to him at first. If your boyfriend likes you for who you are, his friends and family will too.
6. Put Your Heart Into a Relationship
Whether he is rich or poor, you need to put your heart into a relationship. Finally, remember that the rich aren’t that different from everyone else — they just have more money. Have open communication. It’s important to tell him what you think and if you’re uncomfortable with his wealth. Tell him you love him more every day. This will let him know that you love his spiritual beauty, not his material beauty. If you’re happy with your relationship, don’t be ashamed to take advantage of the perks of dating a rich guy. If you’ve just returned from a trip to Venice, that’s great too!
P.S. The man maybe good, but money may corrupt him over time. Rich people are busy and often tied up in work. Most rich people are bossy. If you want to date a rich guy, be prepared for that.
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Rory Pollard is a sex-positive person who sees a fulfilled sexuality as the glue of the relationship. He has always been fascinated by sexuality in all its facets - so much that he studied it. This knowledge and his experiences as a person who has survived many ups and downs make him a professional sexologist. He is a specialist who can change his clients' views on relationships and sex. Rory also writes exciting blog posts on family life, marriage, dating, and personal development.